{"id":7843,"date":"2021-06-06T10:10:17","date_gmt":"2021-06-06T15:10:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/?p=7843"},"modified":"2021-06-06T10:10:17","modified_gmt":"2021-06-06T15:10:17","slug":"one-vegetable-one-flower-one-bird-at-a-time","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/2021\/06\/one-vegetable-one-flower-one-bird-at-a-time\/","title":{"rendered":"One Vegetable, One Flower, One Bird at a Time"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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The first fuschia flower of Beauregarde snowpea appeared today. Lots of peas on the way<\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I’VE DECIDED<\/span><\/strong> that when I finally get the headspace to write the memoir I have false-started many times, I will call it One Vegetable At a Time<\/em>. (A not-so-clever play on \u201cone day at a time.\u201d Ha, ha, I know. Funny, not funny. But appropriate for me.) Not that any publisher in their right mind would let an author actually pick the title for her book. But the magazine editor in me always wants to sum up the story before it is written. (Yeah, that\u2019s a problem in itself!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I\u2019m thinking about this right now because I am feeling overwhelmed. In three days, we get on a plane to go to Georgia for a memorial service, and between now and then I have three work deadlines, two more publications that need to get moved forward substantially before I go, four work meetings, and about 60 plants that need to go in the ground \u2014 after erecting a new fence and filling two large raised beds with soil. Got to clean the house for the dog sitter and of course eat, sleep (very minimally), pack and get to the airport. Yada yada ya. Everyone has this stuff, these weeks, so I feel a little silly carrying on about it. (Well, more than a little silly.) Especially because half of it is self-induced stress.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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This is the first time I’ve grown clematis, and it is so exciting to see it bloom on the trellis we built last year. This one is called H.F. Young and is paired with a peach climbing rose (Crown Princess Margareta) that is about to burst into bloom.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I am so very adept at stressing myself out! I always take on too much and then feel like I must accomplish it all in proper fashion. God forbid I should just not do some of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then there\u2019s the complicating factor of actually wanting to accomplish some of the tasks more than others. Spending time in the garden this time of year is probably my most favorite thing in the whole world. Not being able to do it is doubly frustrating since I can see the garden from my office window. It sings out to me like a Siren, begging me to come out and leave my work, unfinished, behind. Day after day it taunts me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Lately, I\u2019ve taken the last hour of daylight \u2013 between dinner and a return to the desk \u2013 to give in to that call. I\u2019m snatching a little time in the early mornings, too \u2013 the garden being one of the only things that can get Susie out of bed early (since Susie reads and\/or tosses and turns until very late at night!).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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With these little windows of time, I take things one flower, one vegetable at a time. The other night during the rainstorm, I sat in the garage and began repotting the top-heavy tomato plants, one by one. Pretty soon I had 30 done. The temperature of my anxiety dropped in a short amount of time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

By breaking things down into simple tasks and not trying to be too ambitious, I can get one thing done and feel good about it. (I was taught to do this in early sobriety, when often I didn\u2019t feel well enough to do half of what I needed to do.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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One day last week, I used 10 minutes to get 12 zinnias into a corner of a raised bed. Not much, but it was something! It felt good. (The gangly zinnias had been languishing in six-packs with tiny root balls. I know they felt better, shaking their roots out.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I try to use the same approach with my work. If my head is about to burst, I stop and rewrite my yellow legal-pad lists. I have a different legal pad for each aspect of my job (and different colored sharpies, of course!). If I get even a small task done, I cross it off the list. (My mother was such a big list maker that she wrote things down every day just so she could cross them off, starting with \u201cGet up.\u201d Yeah, and you wonder why I am crazy. By the way, the next thing on her list was usually “Vacuum.” That is almost never on my list.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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This bite-size approach isn\u2019t novel, and I think my favorite illustration of it is an anecdote from author Anne Lamott<\/a> on how she came to call her book on writing Bird by Bird<\/em><\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Thirty years ago my older brother, who was ten years old at the time, was trying to get a report on birds written that he\u2019d had three months to write. [It] was due the next day. We were out at our family cabin in Bolinas, and he was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books on birds, immobilized by the hugeness of the task ahead. Then my father sat down beside him, put his arm around my brother\u2019s shoulder, and said, \u201cBird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.<\/strong>“<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

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I also keep this quote (that also happens to be about writing \u2013 which apparently inspires stress and anxiety in even the most seasoned authors!) from novelist E.L. Doctorow<\/a> on my board:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWriting a novel is like driving at night in the fog \u2013 You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.\u201d<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Page by page, bird by bird, vegetable by vegetable, flower by flower, task by task. Not only do small accomplishments move you forward and push you through anxiety, but sometimes performing smaller tasks, especially in repetition, is particularly soothing to a noisy brain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuck that into your toolbox to use when you need it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The first fuschia flower of Beauregarde snowpea appeared today. Lots of peas on the way. I’VE DECIDED that when I finally get the headspace to write the memoir I have false-started many times, I will call it One Vegetable At a Time. (A not-so-clever play on \u201cone day at a time.\u201d Ha, ha, I know. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[168,181,149,163,164,45],"tags":[166,203,202],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7843"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7843"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7843\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7857,"href":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7843\/revisions\/7857"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7843"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7843"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7843"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}