{"id":7894,"date":"2021-06-26T08:23:03","date_gmt":"2021-06-26T13:23:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/?p=7894"},"modified":"2021-06-26T08:23:03","modified_gmt":"2021-06-26T13:23:03","slug":"texting-with-dad-at-almost-91","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sixburnersue.com\/cooking-fresh-eating-green\/2021\/06\/texting-with-dad-at-almost-91\/","title":{"rendered":"Texting with Dad (at Almost 91)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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An old summer photo of Dad, undoubtedly taken while he was working in the garden.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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MY DAD TURNS 91<\/span><\/strong> in three weeks. My sister and I were worried about him this morning, because he hadn\u2019t responded to a three-way text that we keep pretty active \u2013 a very 2021 kind of way to stay in touch with your family. When he first got his IPhone, he\u2019d been shy about texting. He never learned to type; the idea of struggling with that little keyboard seemed like too much trouble. But once he realized his busy daughters were apt to communicate more often by text than by phone, little by little he joined in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But in his typical way (he is a wordsmith and a careful thinker), he has fashioned a style of texting that is uniquely his. Every text is carefully worded, in complete sentences, intentionally witty, and warmly and articulately expressed. Usually with an emoji.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are not texts he can bang out in rapid fire; response from him takes a little time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This morning, my sister was in a board meeting, and since I had just finished wrapping up a publication to send to the printer, I offered to call Dad so that I could reassure my sister that everything was fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He picked up after a couple rings and I could hear outdoorsy noise in the background. So right away, of course, I realize he\u2019s fine. I\u2019m thinking he\u2019s in the backyard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But no, he\u2019s over at his friend\u2019s house \u2013 one of the nice ladies he plays bridge with \u2013 installing a garden he designed for her over the winter. Actually, he wasn\u2019t installing it himself \u2013 one of the only concessions he\u2019s made to being almost 91 is that he can\u2019t put as many plants in the ground as when he was almost 90. (Last year during the pandemic he occupied himself by redoing all the planting beds around his house with hundreds of perennials. That\u2019s a lot of digging.) This time, he had help in the form of his friend\u2019s gardener. But having drawn the design and traversed the length of Delaware several times visiting nurseries in search of very particular plant varieties for his friend, he of course had to be there to supervise!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He apologized for not answering the text. But they had started the installation project yesterday and had been at it \u2018til late. When he got home, he laid down for a nap and fell asleep. In the morning he had to dash back over there to help finish the project.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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One of many birthday celebrations with Dad (in plaid pants), Uncle Rodney (right), Uncle Doug (left), and my grandmother Honey (and her famous chocolate cake).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I let him go back to work after a brief chat about the dates in late July that we\u2019ll be driving down to see him. Three months is about as long as I can stand to go without seeing him these days. And if possible, we like to celebrate our birthdays together. We\u2019ve been double-celebrating for a mighty long time, sometimes with my grandmother\u2019s chocolate cake, sometimes without. (My sister made it last year, complete with 7-minute boiled white icing.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I was watering my garden tonight, I kept thinking about Dad and how much he loves plants and gardening and how thoroughly he has passed that love on to me and my sister. It is a true gift. I\u2019m never more content (the opposite of anxious) than when I\u2019m working in the garden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Last weekend, during a three-way Father\u2019s Day text, I sent along some photos of our progress in the garden, including the newly expanded veg and flower garden with the little retaining wall.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

His response was effusively complimentary (with emoji). He also offered support and empathy to my sister for some work she is trudging through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But my favorite part of the text?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThanks to you both for your loving messages. The best thing about Father\u2019s Day is\u2026well, being a father!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This Dad just gets better and better with age. I can\u2019t wait to see him. I think I\u2019ll bring him a plant for his birthday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The Dad Chronicles:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Beam Me Up (or Down), Scotty!<\/a> <\/strong>(April 24, 2021)
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My Father the Instagram Star<\/a> (January 28, 2021)
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Cooking with Dad<\/a> <\/strong>(Vineyard Gazette<\/em>) (March 22, 2020)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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